Gene Bay oral history interview, part 2.

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    Mindful of the importance of saving
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    of thing now you were
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    because of hate when the war ended.
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    Right.
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    What do you remember about that period of time
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    this tied to what
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    you just said right.
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    I remember picking
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    up hitchhikers guys
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    who were hitchhiking
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    and I remember I remember the
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    end of the war I remember the
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    day I happened to be
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    my aunt
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    and uncle's in Baltimore.
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    And I remember
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    streetcars being taken off the tracks
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    and people are out celebrating
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    that sort of thing.
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    I don't remember very much about V-J
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    Day interestingly enough
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    but I remember
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    very very explicitly
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    did that ever take the sun
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    to the Baltimore Sun.
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    Yes yes.
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    So
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    do you read the headlines about
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    the atom bomb Nagasaki.
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    I do I do.
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    I do.
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    Yeah.
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    I mean did that have any
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    impression other that it was
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    likely to end the war.
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    I think that was the main thing at that time
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    probably on this young.
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    Child.
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    I mean how would you know much of
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    that right.
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    Yeah right. Yeah.
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    And you prepare very much about it
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    right. No.
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    And so
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    one of the other things I think is important
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    bill is that
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    I mentioned that I grew up
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    not having any
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    any acquaintance with black children
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    African-American children
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    or Jewish children.
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    And even
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    even into my early days of ministry
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    this I'm way ahead.
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    But then darling
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    and even then
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    my recollection is of
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    Route 40 which was the main
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    drag between New York
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    and Washington.
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    I remember stories of
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    ambassadors from African
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    countries being refused
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    service in restaurants
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    along the Route 40 in Maryland
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    before the old national road.
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    Right.
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    And
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    but you know that was a main
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    road from New York to Washington
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    at the time.
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    And I just
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    mean the schools
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    for African-American children
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    colored people call them
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    in those days
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    were you know very
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    much below
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    the standard of what I experienced.
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    And so
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    there was no there was no school integration
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    until the 1960s
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    so you know I
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    had.
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    None of that.
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    Experience in
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    the way of being
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    out of sight out of mind mostly.
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    Is that fair.
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    Mostly.
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    I guess I would say you
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    still see dual
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    facilities.
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    Oh yes.
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    Oh yeah the trains the train
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    stations.
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    Well I don't recall ever
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    being on a train so I wouldn't remember
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    that but I do remember the
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    drinking fountains restrooms
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    and
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    I just I'm so thankful
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    for that.
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    I mean I I just remember my
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    parents were very respectful
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    of African-Americans
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    but we had no no intercourse
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    with them and.
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    Do you remember the Berlin
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    Airlift.
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    I don't know.
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    Do you ever when you first heard the term
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    Cold War.
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    Well I guess it would have been during the Eisenhower
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    years I suppose you
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    first heard that term some time between
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    50 to 56.
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    It goes over the terms of.
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    Did you know anybody that had shot.
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    I
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    did not ever
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    disapprove of.
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    All right.
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    Let me talk
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    a little bit about
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    Bob before we get into religion.
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    This really does deal
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    with religion.
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    Tell me about what it was like
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    to be at your house
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    at Christmas.
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    Christmas was a great time.
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    The tree went up several
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    days before Christmas
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    but nothing else was done.
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    So the tree was decorated.
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    We always had a
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    big train
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    set with all the houses
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    that Elberta fly American
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    flyer was.
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    All that was done on Christmas Eve
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    by my grandfather.
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    And they would be up to 4:00 in the
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    morning and then we could climb out
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    of bed at 6:00 and try to get them up again.
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    We were not allowed.
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    We were not allowed to go downstairs until
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    they gave us permission to do it.
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    So we'd sit at the top of the stairs
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    and wonder
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    what was under the tree.
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    Where the trees come from
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    probably was cut out of there.
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    Some of our books
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    I suspect
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    may possibly have been purchased
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    by my father in the city
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    and brought down.
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    But I suspect he was country
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    there was
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    trying to think
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    oh I was going to tell you a story.
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    One year I was
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    about I can't remember how when exactly
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    I was maybe I'm still
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    believing in Santa Claus.
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    I was 7 years old.
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    Maybe we were
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    we were eating dinner
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    and
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    my father had arranged
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    for one of my older cousins
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    to come ringing
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    sleigh bells around the house
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    in order to get us up to bed before
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    us so that we wouldn't see sackcloth
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    so that he could he could get
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    an early start on the tree.
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    So we're eating dinner these slave
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    elves or anything outside our
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    house and saying
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    oh I've got a cat I'm gonna get to bed.
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    No other said he's probably
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    off down that you can
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    finish your dinner.
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    That was one year when my father
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    mother got to bed that he's now our
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    Christmas.
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    Well you know so
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    at least initially Christmas to you was more
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    secular.
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    It was that it was religious Yeah
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    it was wasn't there was no Christmas Eve service
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    you're fifty miles away.
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    Right.
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    But I think there was a Christmas Eve service
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    in our church at that time.
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    There would have been
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    and so you know something
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    the Sunday mornings of Advent if
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    even Advent was observed.
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    I can't recall that it was
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    but it probably was.
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    I mean there are some some fashion
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    and I'm sure Christmas carols
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    for some
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    but with the Christmas Eve
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    services were of a 1950s
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    60s.
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    It's later. Yeah.
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    At least in that they
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    the ones that make the village effect.
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    Darlington had never had a Christmas Eve
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    service until I went there.
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    Sixty two
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    so even even then
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    they had just
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    come back a little bit
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    just to see
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    Easter
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    Easter
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    in terms of the family was
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    always an important meal of course
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    meal time with
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    with other family.
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    But certainly
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    I'm going to worship
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    and occasionally
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    a sunrise service if I was visiting
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    one of my favorite items in Baltimore
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    they would they would go to
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    Memorial Stadium for sunrise
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    service. Wow.
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    Go there
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    love people.
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    Yeah.
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    Well I don't recall how many people there were.
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    I think there were good many people.
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    It was huge. Yeah it was huge.
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    But whether it was full
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    or not.
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    I know but I remember definitely that
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    there were services
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    and Memorial Stadium
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    in Thanksgiving you'd be a fan.
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    Yes.
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    Yeah.
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    You could watch football on TV in
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    TV football
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    hunting in the morning.
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    Yeah.
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    The men hunted
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    rabbits rabbits
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    pheasants mostly rabbits.
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    Did you have dogs scoring a
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    we did.
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    Yeah.
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    And cats that were Mausers.
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    Yes. Yeah
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    and the bar yeah yeah
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    yeah.
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    What kind of dogs were they just
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    just mongrels my space
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    I play yeah just good old fashioned up
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    there.
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    Yeah yeah.
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    Let's take a break.
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    Just.
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    Were we're
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    very early religious experiences
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    that shaped your life.
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    I don't think so until I
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    would say until high school probably
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    well I'll take that back
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    with Bill.
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    I don't know.
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    How to call this a religious experience
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    but there was a
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    elderly elder
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    in the Bethel
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    Church
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    who for some reason
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    or another.
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    Andy Barr was his name.
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    Some reason or another took me under
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    his wings
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    and I remember I mean he always sat
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    in the front. My family sort of sat in the
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    back middle
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    somehow or another he got
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    me to sit with him
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    and Sunday after
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    Sunday I would pray
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    for my family
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    and go sit with his elderly gentleman.
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    And I don't know that was
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    that was an experience of just I think
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    of here's an older person
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    taking interest in
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    me as a boy.
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    You mentioned that one time also
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    you know passing your father's room in
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    Washington. Pray.
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    Tell me a little bit more about
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    how just
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    the bathroom was
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    took to go to the bathroom took
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    me past his his
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    and my mother's bedroom
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    and I just recall
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    having seen him on his knees
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    saying his prayers before
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    going to bed.
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    And neither my mother
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    nor my father were overtly
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    religious in.
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    Mean they they weren't they didn't wear
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    it on their speed they didn't
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    but there was that
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    and there is the fact that
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    I remember every Saturday night whether he was
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    going to go to church or not he was writing a check
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    to pay his pledge which
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    if he wasn't going my mother would take
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    me off and play.
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    So it was kind of things
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    I remember.
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    Of shifting gears
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    a little bit.
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    Why did you choose to start
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    guys.
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    Well this is a long story.
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    I was a senior in high school
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    and had been accepted the
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    University of Maryland
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    and thought I would
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    pursue a degree in dairy
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    husbandry and maybe combine it
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    with veterinary medicine
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    sort of one of my local heroes
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    was a dairy farmer who was also a vet.
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    Our our church
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    had a vacancy
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    and
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    the committee brought
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    in this gentleman
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    to preach his candidate ating sermon.
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    Church was jammed for
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    Sunday school rooms were open.
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    The church was full.
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    This Bethel Church at that time
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    was four
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    or five hundred member church
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    here in the country was pretty pretty good
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    sized
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    and
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    this guy Luther Bostrom
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    was his name just blew
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    it.
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    He didn't he didn't do well
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    in the congregational meeting.
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    Later
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    about a third of the congregation voted not
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    to call him so
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    he was wise enough to
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    know not to do that.
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    That was about the time that I
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    had begun thinking about the possibility
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    of ministry
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    and
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    and I was beginning to say well
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    if I'm going that maybe I should go to a Presbyterian
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    school not go to university in Maryland
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    this guy's Bible
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    College of Worcester
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    and said
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    Well that's a Presbyterian school.
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    And so I think I think this is late
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    in the spring.
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    I remember my father
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    taking me to Worcester.
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    I think it was in June
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    and I met
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    with the dean of man Rakete
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    1955.
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    And
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    that's how I got to Worcester
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    going to Worcester in the fall
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    in the fall just a couple of months later.
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    Right. You know today
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    probably never ever get in
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    but I did
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    and
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    I've.
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    And then this strange next
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    strange thing about this story is who
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    shows up in my freshman class.
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    But this guy's daughter.
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    And I never I never
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    ever told her about this experience
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    about her.
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    Her father
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    being responsible for my
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    began to muster at that point
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    you had no.
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    Did you have any
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    inkling or
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    knowledge of the difference between going
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    to a University of Maryland
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    and Wall Street in terms of the
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    type of education level
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    arts versus large
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    state school.
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    I was very naive about it
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    and were
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    a lot of your classmates who heard of it.
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    Do they have the same day to
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    thank
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    all right.
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    I have to outlast many
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    of them did as much as I did.
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    I mean you may begin to ask me about this
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    but Worcester was a transformative
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    experience for me.
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    Absolutely transformative.
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    And
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    I've been grateful
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    ever since.
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    What was your first impression of last year
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    when you looked at this
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    whole buildings.
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    You know Albrecht which is there
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    I mean I've never seen other
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    camps that looks like that like theirs.
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    What did.
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    What impression did it have on
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    first arriving here today.
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    You know I think it was positive I don't
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    know that I was overwhelmed by it.
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    I think my interview
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    with the dean of men I don't know why
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    did these men was interviewing me.
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    Maybe he was the only one on campus
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    at that time who knows.
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    But my interview
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    with him was very positive.
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    I do remember that.
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    And it's not
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    like this was your first week like
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    it was for me.
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    What did you what did you take
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    with you.
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    I mean what was it like partying
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    with your with your parents.
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    Well it took me out
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    and you know it took
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    us close to
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    typewriter didn't have a computer in those
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    days obviously.
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    And I was I was so late
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    entering that I was
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    just my housing was in
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    an old
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    World War II Navy
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    unit
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    that was like it
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    was.
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    No it wasn't a Quonset hut it was just
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    it was just wooden
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    barracks and barracks like
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    with space heaters.
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    And the wind would
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    in the wintertime the wind would
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    come right through the walls
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    and it was
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    an eyewitness.
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    I was fortunately assigned to
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    a guy that I got along
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    with very well were still
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    lifelong friends to this day.
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    And our our
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    room was right next to the junior resident
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    who was a really fine
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    guy and kind of took us under
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    his wing. And
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    so it was it was positive in
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    that regard but you know I've
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    kind of lost here
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    where I go where I do
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    thing where there are
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    no other Scots
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    where their traditions of things
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    refreshment and things that oh yeah
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    freshman run out
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    sophomores came
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    walks all of us hazing really.
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    So that was that was a tradition wearing
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    beanies was a tradition.
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    Did you get to drink.
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    Yeah yeah.
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    Do that.
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    Remembered too many of the things going.
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    Well you know this is a time
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    in your life that you're also
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    somewhat free freer than you were
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    before. I mean your parents are there
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    right.
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    I mean does your mother shed
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    tears when
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    she left. Did you.
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    Did you see me like that.
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    I don't recall that.
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    What was your.
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    You're now or you know having
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    you've reached another plateau
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    of sorts.
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    Right. What does that mean.
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    Well I think it is here
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    I'm
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    Henfrey although I remember being I was
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    I was pretty homesick
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    and told about the first Thanksgiving
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    and then after that I was fine
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    but this time
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    I've been homesick.
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    Interestingly enough we had a we had a
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    an English competence
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    test that all the freshmen
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    the first set to take.
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    And I found it.
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    So I ended up having to take bonehead
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    English. They called it
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    about halfway through the semester.
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    The teacher said to
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    me you don't belong in this class.
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    Well here I am.
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    So I remember
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    that was kind of a disappointment
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    to hear.
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    I'm one of the students who
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    had to take bonehead English
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    I don't know psychologically
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    what I'd make of it.
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    I mean I think
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    I just think well meet some good friends
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    and
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    I really I really
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    liked the academic life
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    I mean I really I really all my
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    life all the way through.
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    I love what Worcester had to offer me.
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    Did you have mandatory complications in
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    kids mandatory chapel
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    which was kind of a joke in a way.
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    I mean we sang an opening him
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    and then
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    four days out of five it would be nothing
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    religious it would be something else.
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    But what we did
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    and we also had required church
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    attendance requirement
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    so you hit him so many times about
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    70 times a semester I
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    think it was really good track.
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    Yep you like.
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    Well I think I think we had
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    to sign something that said that
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    we had. So it was sort of an honor system
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    cheerfully didn't keep track.
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    I mean it had a chapel monitor who
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    kept attendance
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    and said
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    So
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    do they have national fraternities as
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    verby said no they were all local
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    local fraternities
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    and sororities.
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    But but they were very important.
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    So like they started as literary
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    societies
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    and I don't think so.
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    I don't think so.
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    Budding in our years their
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    social life revolved around
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    the fraternities
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    and the cult sections of cult sections
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    1 through 8
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    and the and the sororities
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    and so pretty
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    much everybody pledged.
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    I did went through all that.
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    More more hazing
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    because you're socially that's
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    in your interview
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    or sports
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    and evolve all around
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    and in the people that you
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    made that people not all need to be adjudicating
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    causes to where people in your
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    right grew.
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    Right.
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    Yeah.
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    And you still keep track of some of those people
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    some of them I do not.
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    Not so many.
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    You talked about your
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    other than meeting your wife
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    as being transitional.
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    What I can do to you my
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    transition or the case forward.
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    Yes it was transitional to
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    you as part of this use.
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    In what ways.
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    Oh many ways.
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    I mean it just opened me up to a world I
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    didn't know existed in terms of
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    me I like growing up where I
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    did.
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    I'm very insular
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    anyways.
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    And
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    first of all I'm meeting
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    I'm meeting Jewish students.
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    I'm I'm
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    involved. I'm I'm being
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    stimulated by these
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    amazing professors
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    and meeting a few
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    African-American students although there were
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    very many.
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    There was during that time
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    and
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    just just.
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    I mean academically just opened
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    me to worlds that
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    I didn't know existed.
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    And
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    professors who.
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    Were good scholars
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    and you probably
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    know Wister has this long term Pridham
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    of independent study
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    which Howard Lowery brought to the campus.
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    So there
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    is this tradition at Worcester the
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    professors are going to be both
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    experts in their field
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    and do research but they're also going to be teachers.
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    And so to have these
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    amazing people who were interested
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    in students
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    and would take time to meet
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    with us and talk
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    with us and have us over
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    for tea
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    or
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    ginger ale or whatever it was we saw
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    them and the alcohol.
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    Right.
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    But.
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    Those kinds of those kinds
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    of things.
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    And you said you majored in history.
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    So with early history professors that you
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    were going.
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    River well.
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    BRADY I
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    Helen Kaslow
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    and Bob Walker.
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    I think.
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    Those are the stars in my
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    mind.
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    Did he publish while you were there.
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    Or before or since.
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    You know I I I don't.
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    I don't recall that they published while
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    I was there I know
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    and published
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    and
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    and Casler I'm sure published
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    Mushir about Dunnam she probably did
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    but I'm sure about her.
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    Oh come back to that.
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    Tell me about.
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    Meeting your wife
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    your future wife.
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    Her.
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    My roommate was dating her roommate
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    and Jean was a cheerleader.
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    So I was a year ahead
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    of her. So this was my sophomore year
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    and
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    and my roommate
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    and I presume his girlfriend
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    at the time thought
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    that I should get to know Gene.
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    So.
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    We went on a double date to a basketball
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    game Worcester vs.
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    overland.
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    And Jean was
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    cheerleading. But you know we
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    went together and came back to console.
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    So that's how we met.
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    That was sort of an arranged
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    date in a way.
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    Had you noticed her before.
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    I don't think so.
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    And she she was a cheerleader for both football
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    and basketball.
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    Yeah.
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    So
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    obviously you were impressed
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    with her.
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    Yeah well it was it was the start
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    of.
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    Many days thereafter.
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    Yeah.
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    She was she was
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    pretty young woman
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    and
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    we hit it off pretty well.
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    Jared is serious about anybody before.
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    Not really.
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    I mean I'd have died had some
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    girlfriends in high school.
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    Nothing that I ever thought was going to go anywhere.
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    Is this something that just basically
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    happened
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    or is it something the
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    did you expect that she
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    might get married
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    at some point it just
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    happened it just happened to him.
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    Yeah yeah.
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    And we
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    said she was here behind me so when
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    I we had
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    we we got engaged my
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    senior year I guess it was
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    and we were
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    she was going to step was
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    and I was going to go to Princeton Seminary
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    and as the time got closer
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    with this
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    being a part for this year.
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    It was so great. So we decided we were going
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    to marry both of our none
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    of our parents.
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    We're very happy about that.
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    But we we we promise
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    that Jean would finish
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    school which.
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    Govern college
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    anyway. So we decided
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    to marry him.
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    So at what point at
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    what point did you know it was really serious
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    very early that relationship for
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    a little bit later.
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    I think later I would say probably
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    junior year maybe I would
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    be your junior year.
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    I thought the energy got more ear.
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    And so by the time that
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    you were ready to start
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    to think about what was going to happen to you not
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    going to be with her for the next year.
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    Why would your parents happy because they
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    fear that she would finish
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    or that you would go off
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    and do what you were going to do.
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    I mean they see my father die
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    at this time.
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    So it's just my father is
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    constantly worried about me
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    not putting my mind to my books.
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    Well I mean I guess some day
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    what.
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    And I think I think her parents
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    I know her parents just want
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    on her defection.
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    What's her name.
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    So what was the first time she took you
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    to her home for us.
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    Would have been
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    I think I think
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    it would have been Christmas
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    junior year probably.
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    You're just eager to
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    hear again.
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    We were we were pinned at that
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    point.
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    And
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    well I need to rethink that because
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    she Jane actually
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    came to visit me
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    on the farm
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    in the summer of
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    between my sophomore
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    and junior year
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    and because my father died
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    my junior year. So she met him.
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    I know that. So
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    I may have gone to her place.
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    Earlier than that
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    but my recollection
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    is I suppose families
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    knew that this was somewhat serious.
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    Why did you guys really like each.
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    Yeah yeah.
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    Yeah it was.
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    It was a surprise no no no
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    no no.
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    So
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    if we look at
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    you know like I hinted at this before
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    but when we talk in terms of
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    University of Maryland for instance in Worcester
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    liberal arts versus a large
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    institution of higher learning.
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    What advantages.
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    You mentioned some of that
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    with it. You know when you talk about the faculty
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    you know taking personal interest
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    in salons. Are there other things that
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    you look back to when you did hated.
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    I think it's something else that I read that
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    these two to three years older went to
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    Wister
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    you know what is it about them liberal arts
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    college or institution similar
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    and our universities.
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    Goes to school like the
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    University of Maryland
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    with the
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    value of you know you've got
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    really close tabs on
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    her.
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    I just think the liberal arts education
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    helps people to become
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    good citizens.
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    And I think it also prepares them for
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    a number of occupations.
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    I mean I've I've heard
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    business people many business people say
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    I'll take a good liberal arts educated
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    person I can teach them what
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    they need to know when they come to work for me.
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    But the fact that they've experienced
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    this broad range of
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    intellectual pursuits
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    that they've learned to think
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    critical thinking they've learned to write.
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    I mean those are some of the things
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    that come to mind to me.
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    And they've they've actually been
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    taught by professors not by some
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    teaching assistants
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    or something
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    like that. So it
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    has drawbacks.
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    Well I mean it is
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    the curriculum is limited.
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    I mean so that
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    history used to have this suddenly.
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    I don't think it still does anymore
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    but it used to have this relationship
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    with MIT where you go to Worcester for
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    three years and go to MIT for two.
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    If you were interested in engineering
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    and mathematics that kind of thing.
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    So I mean there are limits
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    in terms of what's what's
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    possible in terms being offered.
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    I know that
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    big time sports
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    and that's important
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    certainly is a difference although I
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    must say I have great
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    admiration for Division 3
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    and the fact that most of the student
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    athletes are really students.
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    So I'm a
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    I'm a yeah I'm a big supporter of
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    liberal arts.
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    Was there an opportunity for you to go
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    do your rock.
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    There probably was I mean
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    there were some students who
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    left for that
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    but it was nowhere near what
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    it is today
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    and nowhere near that number are able
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    to write and no had a head of
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    Worcester in India program.
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    They had a relationship
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    with India and there were a number of
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    students particularly some who
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    were religiously inclined
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    or thinking about seminary who would
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    dissipate that I didn't
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    I don't rumors I guess there were a few
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    other opportunities
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    but I don't think there were very many.
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    Did you go back home we went to the farm.
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    I did originally.
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    As I told you my father died my
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    junior year.
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    My brother initially was going
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    to take over and run the farm which
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    he did for a few months
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    and then decided it wasn't for him.
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    And so at that point
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    we all decided to sell the farm
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    and we sold the cattle
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    and everything we had a big sale.
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    So the first
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    year I did
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    go back and work on the farm
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    work with my brother
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    who was actually he was actually doing this
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    before my father died.
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    So that had to be between my sophomore
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    and junior year.
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    And then after that
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    I sought
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    and got other jobs
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    and are going to be
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    better paying your father's health
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    come slowly south.
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    Or was quick.
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    My father was a heavy smoker
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    two packs a day cigars
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    and he had a
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    massive current.
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    He had quit two years earlier
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    smoking altogether cold turkey.
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    But it all caught
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    on by him.
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    There was a big snowstorm
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    in March
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    and he had gone out
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    and shoveled snow
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    and
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    came in that night had a car
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    Erin was
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    gone.
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    So when we talk
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    in terms of who paid
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    for going to school
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    would you pay for a chunk of it.
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    I assume that they would pay for the
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    rest.
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    Family pay for it until my father died
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    and then then
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    immediately I got a job
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    that was your waiting tables.
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    I was a junior resident which paid
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    for my
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    I'd already been a junior resident which paid
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    for my housing part of the board
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    right now.
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    And then I had
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    a I worked I
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    had a laundry business I collected
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    laundry and took it down to
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    the laundry
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    and then delivered.
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    And that's she
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    inherited or came up
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    with yourself.
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    I came. Well it was a
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    it was an opportunity I think to whoever
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    had that business before I graduated.
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    And I was able to get so
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    I did that for a couple of years.
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    And
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    you know I think Geez those days
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    flustered rose.
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    I mean I think I think my
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    comprehensive fee it was it was
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    only four or five thousand dollars a year.
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    Those days you
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    even in those days it was cheap compared
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    to what it is now. Right.
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    Exactly.
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    That's after inflation.
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    Right. Heavy loss of inflation.
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    OK.
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    Of
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    at this point what point
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    did you realize that
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    agriculture was not where you want
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    it to to be
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    and that
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    you were thinking more in terms of religion.
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    Senior year high school was when I began
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    to really consider that
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    seriously
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    and through the years it was
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    really visible.
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    I love the phone.
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    I mean like I it's
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    not a case of that's not something
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    that I would have
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    and the ways I would have loved to have done that.

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